Ne iubim copiii atunci cand suntem ingrijorati?-continuare

Posted By admin on August 25, 2010

Va promiteam ca voi continua articolul despre ingrijorarile parintilor pana cand veti gasi dumneavoastra raspunsul la intrebarea-Ingrijorarile si temerile sunt sinonime cu dragostea? Urmatoarele exemple va vor prezenta unele convingeri daunatoare despre copii si cresterea lor , care  produc gradat anxietate crescuta , anxietate care devine pe nesimtite permanenta .
Mi-am amintit astazi despre o fetita careia mama -o persoana foarte ingrijorata si tematoare si care isi pierdea cumpatul si o batea-ii spunea :
“Te bat pentru ca te iubesc si pentru ca sunt ingrijorata pentru tine. Daca nu te-as bate ar insemna ca nu-mi pasa de tine.” Mai cunoasteti astfel de parinti? Probabil ca da…..
Si acum hai sa mai aflam raspunsul la o intrebare:
Cum puteti deveni permanent temator si nelinistit, fara prea mult efort?
1.“Trebuie sa fiu un parinte perfect.Daca nu sunt intotdeauna calm , competent si corect in modul in care imi tratez copiii, acestia se vor dezvolta prost”(daca copilul meu va apuca pe un drum gresit e numai vina mea).
2.“Trebuie sa am grija astfel incat copilul meu sa nu se simta niciodata inconfortabil, sa nu fie ranit sau sa nu fie in vre-un pericol”( nu le da voie sa faca sport, le intrezice diverse prietenii pentru ca nu sunt suficient de bune etc.)
3.“Ar fi ingrozitor daca copiii mei nu m-ar iubi tot timpul”(evita sa-i pedepseasca )
4.“Este ingrozitor ca ceilalti sa nu aprobe modul in care imi cresc copiii”.
5.“Daca nu sunt tot timpul nelinistit si temator cu privire la bunastarea copiilor mei , inseamna ca sunt un parinte lamentabil”. ( trebuie sa ii las o avere cat de cat mare , nu cum am fost eu,trebuie sa fiu mereu ingrijorata, asa erau si parintii mei etc.)
Va propun si un exercitiu : Identificati una sau mai multe din afirmatiile de mai sus pe care vi le spuneti cel mai frecvent si analizati-le .
Camelia Dragomirescu

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  1. The boxing match between the American Floyd Mayweather and the Philippine Manny
    Pacquiao will be held tomorrow in Las Vegas and is
    already being called the ‘Fight of the Century’. Why is this, and how
    can I watch this online? Are there any live streams available online?

    The live stream will be available here:
    http://mayweatherpacquiaowatchonline.com

    These two are the best boxers in the world in their weight league.
    Pacquiao (36) otherwise known as ‘Pacman’ is with one of the four big
    international boxing federations. He is a world champion. The two
    men are both without a doubt living legends in their sport.
    Manny Pacquiao is a world champion and pretty
    much unbeatable. Of 64 professional titels he lost only
    5. Mayweather lost 5 matches and won 47 professional boxing matches.

    These two are opposites of eachother in character. Mayweather is a
    symbol of the American capitalism. He can not read and he makes $105 million dollars.
    He loves to call himself ‘Money’ en he likes to show his riches on social media.
    Tomorrow he will fight with a mouth with $100
    bills inside of it, along with gold of course. The item must have cost around $25,
    000. In 2012 he had to sit in jail for 90 days because he assaulted his former
    girlfriend.
    Pacquiao on the other hand is a beloved person in the Philippines.
    He gives a lot of money to charity and is chosen by the Philippinen House of Representitives and he is
    the head coach of a local basketball club. Not bad for a guy who used to
    sleep in a box on the streets. Now he has an estimated
    $100 million bucks. He is known as a kind and
    humorous man.

    At 8pm Las Vegas time the match will start.

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